Before the date
Him
Choose a meeting place that’s public but yet has privacy so you don’t have to shout above the din to be heard. Anywhere that’s to intimate might put off a girl for obvious reasons!
Don't forget to take a bath, put on some cologne and decent shoes for your night out!
Her
Dress up but not too revealingly. You do not want to look like a hooker or have him talking to your ‘bits’ the whole night.
A touch of class and a subtle hint of flesh is key to getting a second date.
Make-up isn’t free so do not layer it on as there was no tomorrow. You do not want to look like a Chinese opera star! A light layer that looks natural shows off your features and leaves him wanting more.
During the date
Him
Number one - Be on time. A girl doesn’t like waiting, but it’s OK if she makes you wait a little! It increases the anticipation.
Be chivalrous. Hold open doors for her and offer to pay the bill even if she insists on going dutch. Women are still looking for their “Knight in shining armour”even in the 21st Century.
Pay attention and focus on her as she talks. Be thoughtful. Although these details are small, a woman notices it all.
It pays to compliment. Woman generally take more time to prepare for a date and they will certainly appreciate it if you acknowledge their efforts such as those great stilettos or sexy perfume!
Her
Do not make him wait hours on end. Making him wait a little increase anticipation but anything longer – he will walk off!
Laugh at his jokes even if it sounds stupid!
Be natural. Try to have a good time!
Both of you
Don’t hog the limelight. Allow both parties to talk. You are not giving a sermon or lecture.
Pay attention and maintain eye-contact. It shows you’re interested and it is plain good manners.
Don't ask for their opinion of you. It signals a lack of confidence, which is a massive turn-off.
Taboo on ex-partner(s) or ex-wife. They don’t want to know the “nitty-gritty”. Plus it also shows you have emotional baggage. No one wants to start a relationship with their foot still in the previous one!
No matter how boring the date is - Don't yawn. Period.
At the end of the date
Him
Be a gentleman. See her home safely, even if you do not plan to pursue the relationship further.
Her
Do not assume there’s a second date coming. It will just project a desperate vibe!
Let the guy do the pursuit. That’s what is embedded into their DNA. Being too desperate is a big turn off (This goes both ways). Allow the guy to suggest the second date and let them feels they’re in control of the hunt!
Never have sex on the first date, even if both of you are ready to jump into each others pant. It may be old-fashioned, but men respect a lady who doesn’t give in so easily.
Both of you
Don’t get pissed drunk, loose all your inhibitions and confess all your dirty little secrets. No one want information overload especially if it’s the sordid type.
If you don’t fancy your date - let him down gently. His ego will probably be bruised so add in some positive character traits to soften the blow! |
